For all my life till now, I thought people respect me because I don't cry in front of them..
I am not very vocal when it comes to, u know, showing my inner emotions..
I get embarrassed when someone pat my back and say, "you will be fine" and "everything will be ok" and worst of all "hang in there"..
I go like, "hello, can't you see..I am fine!"
I have always been like that kid who used to get angry when people call her a girl..well I am.
..but I never wanted people to quote it because I saw the word girl being used as an insult!
All my life till now, I thought that showing that I am emotionally detached would help me loose that stigma of being a girl and more so help me find legitimacy in a person for there will only be handful of people who will go below my layers of "leave me alone" and find the real me..
And I was right..They are handful indeed!
And for the rest, it has always been my responsibility to show you my emotions because one can not and should not expect such high maintenance from everyone!
It has never been anyone's fault if you didn't understand me in the past. It was mine!
In an event it was pointed out that not showing my inner emotions to people didn't help me or may be didn't get me the place I wanted but in turn put me in a position where people, kind of took me for granted that "I will know it all".
Segmenting myself emotionally made me look hypocritical more, than anything else!
the concept of " I won't let everyone in emotionally" took hell of a wrong turn!
So being expressive and being vocal in expressing your feelings are things that sound similar and easy but a lot different and hard to do in real...nevertheless both should be done!
If you feel something (anything...it covers a whole area from, having a bit more affection for anyone to having anger issues with a long distant friend), say it, do not think if he has a girlfriend or for that matter, boyfriend (vice-versa)....or that he/she won't understand just because that person is physically away!!
Saying that will probably make you feel that you are on a display, but believe me it's better than wondering for the rest of your life; because you will eventually express it directly or indirectly at a time which may or may not be fair to the concern person!
If you are emotional and want to call someone at the middle of the night or want to cry on someone's shoulder, do it..Do not think whether he/she will judge you or think less of you..because here also, you will end up crying, hugging that person eventually at a time when they won't have a clue of what to do next!
Today. I felt a strange thing..
As I have always thought myself more of a testosterone person than an estrogen one, I have always had zero knowledge as far as female make up is concern,
(yes! I am straight..and..no! I do not have a favorite shade of lipstick)
.....and at the same time had this feeling of inferiority while walking past a beautifully dressed girl...I have always wondered what would it take for me to look like that.
Then the thought of so much of work for looking beautiful used to make me go "forget it!"
But today, as I was in my usual pace with my playlist loud and headphones on, a group of "selfie-queens" (if I may say so, with no offense to anyone) past me; and it hit me, I don't care anymore..because someone became vocal and said that
"You are beautiful"
...strange what right words from right people can do to you!.....and I caught myself smiling..for no better reason than realizing it that henceforth I know I will hear the voice every time my confidence will shake!
I always knew I don't need make up to look confident as far as looks are concern; but having someone injecting that feeling inside felt pretty good today!
Somewhere I read that,
"While silence can numb the world, words can be destructive"It is right!! The words that gave me confidence that I am the perfect version of myself did destroy the old me...destroyed many old beliefs and made me believe that being "a girl" is more important than being "ideal"..
The phrase might not have been written the way I interpreted; but here's to the writer that it can be interpreted this way as well!!
|| It is better to get destroyed by words than surviving silently || :)
#StayBlessed!